Long-distance relationships. I have to say, that status in itself is pretty self-explanatory. The wait is long and the distance is inevitable. I could go on and on and on about how much I don’t like it. And on any given day, the cons seem to outweigh the pros.
However, I like to think that there is purpose hidden behind every event that takes place in our life. This hidden purpose is meant to be discovered. With this insight, we are invited to ask ourselves: “Is the glass half empty or half full?” This idiom leaves you pondering. It takes what you know- your real and tangible life experiences- and interwoven together, they give birth to perspective.
This being said, long-distance relationships, with the help of your powerful choice, can either be viewed positively or negatively. Easily empathizing with this status, I have found myself stuck in a whirlwind of negative thoughts on countless occasions. It’s so easy to be overwhelmed and burdened. It doesn’t require much effort to remain in that place of despair and frustration. All you have to do is fall under the heavy weight of negativity. All you have to do is look at your situation and deem it “half empty”. Before you know it, you are trapped in utter confusion, doubting everything you have ever known to be true.
I am currently dating a very sweet man. He is charisma and hope and love personified. He has captivated my heart. With patience and kindness, he pursues me, and although it is most often from a distance, I have never felt as close to him as I do now.
With six-months of long-distance dating under my belt, I can’t say I’m an expert, but the growth and wisdom I have gained during these past months is incomparable to the prior years of my life. I love that with every season of life, there is purpose. The beauty of process is that, in the end, the promise of that season is always fulfilled. Purpose is what fuels us to keep going. That’s why life without meaning leaves us empty and unsatisfied. When your life is exploding with meaning and purpose, you blossom. You set yourself up for success.
The distance between Kevin and I has allowed me to slow down, making time to seek, behold and savour every moment of our relationship. We (Kev and I) have taken the space (inevitable) and have been intentional. Every step taken, every word spoken, every decision made has in some way, shape or form played a role in our growth as individuals and as a couple.
In every season there is beauty. It is alive and moving. With this beauty, comes responsibility. It is our job to find it. At times, it will be easy to spot, and we are immediately captivated. While other times, we need to work a little harder to see it. Regardless, beauty is there— awaiting your discovery. This is the same with long-distance relationships. There will be moments where you are taken over by the glorious feeling of love and other times, with frustration in hand, will struggle to see the good.
If we would just take the circumstances we’re in and choose to see purpose, our lives would drastically change. Every single moment I took a step back and looked at the bigger picture, I was greatly rewarded. This time of distance has caused us both of us to grow exponentially. In this season, I have learned hands on what sacrifice, selflessness and love look like. I’m continually learning and growing and being stretched in my ability to love.
In all honesty, it saddens my heart to be so far from Kevin. Every part of me desires to experience the day to day with him; however, with purpose behind this season, this time of separation/being apart feels just right (for now at least). God is orchestrating every detail and I’m leaning on Him for strength, comfort and peace.
This nugget of wisdom from Ecclesiastics 9:10 rings true in all circumstances: “Whatever you do, do well”. I want to be someone who takes every moment, every circumstance and with all of my heart, mind and strength, do well. Everything I do, I want to do with excellence, healthy motives and an overflowing heart.
This pilgrimage has been challenging, testing and a time of vulnerability. I could never do it alone and for this, I am thankful for the many gold souls that support and cheer me on daily. I’m choosing to do well as I date my sweet man. I don’t want anything to do with the whispering lies of discouragement. I want the sweet-sounding voice of truth and love to fill my heart and mind. In this circumstance, I am choosing to see the glass half full; I am choosing to embrace the now in order to be prepared and equipped for the promise.